Actually we live in Europe so heal in a world that has won many problems. And many of these problems we can solve just the way how it has learned, often painfully learned. It is dependent on his way, some problems is one of themselves, other one is from the way other Displace and if one company without drugs and / or alcohol dependence is to be older than 70 for some of the quite an achievement.
This changes fundamentally if one is religious and is serious. Because you know that there is someone always on the one side and everything will notice - God - and because you can hear another of a way to cope with problems. The road is very thick, it is responding to the problems facing toward intimate with charity, forgiveness and self-criticism and suddenly discovered you that you can solve the problems that have been previously intractable.
Admittedly, all is not as easy as you lived it down, but it does. Only this works well with really big problems? Financial problems weiterzuexistieren it impossible or even worse problems by the consequences of violence?
On kath.net I have read of a family has been through the really bad and has done incredible. Read yourself:
forgiveness for a killer
a sex crime with far-reaching consequences. Klaus Rösler.
Freiburg / Br. (Kath.net / idea) "We went through hell." What tries to describe Ursula link from Sound City in Freiburg, it is difficult to put into words. It's like a bad movie. Her daughter Stefanie is sexually abused and killed. And desecrated the corpse afterwards. Ursula that link today - almost nine years later - can talk about the crime, she owes God. She has even forgiven the offender - face to face. Klaus Rösler idea staff spoke with the 54-year-olds.
The millennium will the 16-year-old schoolgirl Stefanie link celebrate with friends - in Freiburg. Early in the morning they want to return. But climb the three accidentally the wrong bus. At the last stop they make walking on the way home. They are happy as a white VW Golf, the driver stops and offers them, take them.
only for sound city, he would not drive. Two girls get one - and come New Year's Eve home. Steffi Schallstadt goes alone. Suddenly, the driver is nice, but there again, after he brought her two friends home. It is entering carefree. Two miles from their home turns into a dirt track from the man ...
makes the whole of New Year's Day, Ursula leftists. Steffi is gone for ever, without a notice. In vain the mother calls her daughter on the phone. She is the phone with all friends. In the evening they went to the police. The next day a farmer found the body. The police bring the news of his death.
Since that moment to link Ursula and her other daughter Nadine nothing like before. Life becomes unbearable for both. Since Ursula Link since the separation from her husband in 1992 a single parent and part-time working now, Steffi had cared for her two years younger, 14-year-old sister Nadine. All three clung to each other much. Therefore, the loss hurts even more. Takes incredible strength to go on.
Ursula link can no longer work. Your daughter gets in trouble at school, becomes the outsider. It is no consolation for them that the offender is determined within a few days later.
endless nightmares - Help of Christians
Two years after the fact Nadine tries to take his own life. The suicide attempt fails. Some weeks she spent in youth psychiatry. But the behavior therapy - Which makes them with her mother - to help is limited. For fear of nightmares sleeping mother and daughter usually cuddled up close. And yet they often wake up drenched in sweat in panic.
Ursula and Nadine link but feel abandoned, but they are not. For parents of friends of her dead daughter Stefanie take care of it. There are Christians, members of a Pentecostal church. Help and advice - at home and talks. But Ursula link press debts, eventually she was no longer able to work and earn money. She asked these friends for money, but they themselves are damp.
"The only one of you in your situation can still help, Jesus Christ, "my friends. Ursula link and their remaining daughter know that you have nothing to lose. You decide to become Christians, to speak out in a prayer. It is 24 October 2002. Prayer has consequences. Slowly it both better off. The courage to come back. They feel, "Jesus Christ is with us."
And Ursula Link makes an unusual experience: reading the Bible and can then sleep again for the first time. The next morning she is so fit that she wants to go to work. She reads the next day on - with the same consequences. Finally, she returns to her job back in a pharmaceutical company.
Ursula visited link - first reluctantly - the community of their friends. Because she wants to be approached by anyone, she comes and goes as the last first. It stands at the back. But when it comes time and again to set her a chair - a visible sign that she is welcome. In the Pentecostal church they can be baptized at last. The baptism of their daughter followed a year later. Their medications - antidepressants - they no longer need. Nadine has now made up their middle school and become a nurse. Today she works as a nurse.
Is Steffi with God?
Reading the Bible has to Ursula Link more Consequences. She wonders: Is her murdered daughter in God? In a vision she sees Steffi suddenly before him. She is doing well. The nut is clear that only someone can look so peaceful, which is very close to God. This gives it strength.
later - while reading the Bible - but then appears the question: Was there ever Steffi Christian? In unexpected ways, the mother is about clarity. After cleaning up they found a small New Testament that Steffi had been given at the age of eleven years of the missionary movement of the Gideons. Inside is a prayer ("My decision to accept Jesus Christ as my Savior ...") - signed by Steffi. Ursula link is overjoyed: "Jesus has shown me with the signature in the Bible: Look, it's all right."
use for offenders
In the next few years, it makes more faith experiences. In an international Pentecostal church in Freiburg, she hears that the pastor and other staff often visit prisoners behind bars. There she will participate. Therefore, she joined the group, a working branch of the prisoners mission "Black Cross".
In prison it is clear that their particular concern are the offenders: "I can see these people through the eyes of Jesus. Whether bank robbers, murderers, Drug addict - which plays no role in everything, you feel a great love for them.. And you realize: One day they meet the murderer of her daughter.
This idea is for them not suddenly terrifying. The man has seen them briefly - in two negotiations. The first time he is sentenced to a 13-year prison sentence. The ruling finds the prosecutor as being too lenient. In the second trial he is sentenced to life imprisonment, followed by preventive detention. Ursula Link knows that they must also forgive him.
meeting with the murderer
experiences earlier this year that the perpetrators severely ill been transferred to the clinic is. She sees a chance to meet him at last. The prosecutor, which she contends supported the idea. He is afraid that the mother only wants revenge. The wife of the perpetrator is afraid to start with a meeting. However, it has come to the meeting. In early February 2009, it has come.
The chaplain, a social worker and the wife of the offender are included. Ursula link goes to the terminally ill her hand and tells him that she has forgiven him, after Jesus Christ has met who has given her a new life. And she also says that God will forgive him even if he confesses his guilt.
A sacred moment
Totally unexpectedly, the man asks, finally, the mother of the daughter he has killed, to pray with him. And they pray together effectively. She feels that she should talk to him a prayer in which he professes to want to continue to follow Jesus Christ (called a sinner's prayer). In fact, says the man after this prayer. "This was a very sacred moment," says Ursula link. "The glory of God was felt in the room."
The present social worker is so impressed by the atmosphere that it also says yes to prayer - and the wife of the murderer. All shake hands and say an Our Father in conclusion. 14 days later the man dies - as a pardoned sinner from God. Ursula link has seen how real peace can be that God gives ". This is huge and beautiful,"
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kath.net The fascinating thing about it: So the family can create a new beginning. Of course this is not possible to do all these steps, if I could be more than questionable. But I also have these problems and in my little world, there is something to forgive also frequently and to forgive, even if there is much more harmless things.
What about with you? Do you wear a lot of load around with you? Do you want your own load or who can help you by God? Have you ever thought about another award?
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